I’m no Captain Awkward, but if someone emails me asking for advice, I’ll do my best.  

10:02 am  •  19 July 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

My column for this week!  Finally, yes, I’m back.  My Chicago trip didn’t leave much time for writing, despite all of my delusions prior to leaving about “taking time to work” and whatnots.  Clearly…not.

For this week’s column, I decided to do something a little different.  If you’ve read any of my other columns on PPR, you’ll know that most of them are various articles on fetishes and personal experiences in the dungeon.  Some recent interactions, though, inspired me to change it up a little.

Yesterday, I put a call out to sex workers on Twitter and Tumblr asking what they found to be the most annoying question/response they got when they tell people about their job.  By the time I asked this question, I had already had formulated most of this column; it possesses a list of the things that have left me endlessly frustrated and annoyed with civilians.  Even so, please keep answering the questions.  Keep sharing with me!

One of my goals is to help de-stigmatize sex work, and help make the world a better place for sex workers.  The only way we can do this is by getting our voices out there.

Give the column a read, and share your thoughts. Disagree?  Agree?  More annoying things?  

Let’s keep the conversation going.  

2:00 pm  •  10 July 2012  •  9 notes  •  View comments

New column up on PPR: Part one of my first exploration with a very specific fetish…puppy play!

As always, for more sex-positive articles, including BDSM how-tos, erotica, politics, and discussions on polyamory, kink and more, follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter.

3:35 pm  •  11 June 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

1:19 pm  •  5 June 2012  •  3 notes  •  View comments

This week’s column on PPR: WANKERS.  A sex worker’s nightmare!  Featuring the ultimate wanker of all time, too.  Give it a read.  Contribute with your stories of wankerdom, sex workers.  Let’s make it clear that this is not as unusual as folks may think.

Let me clarify that: When I had some non-sex workers who help me edit my writing (shout out to my partner and the ever amazing Amanda), they really didn’t understand exactly why I was so offended at the ultimate wanker’s behavior.  Yeah, they thought he was a dick, but they don’t get that we encounter this shit all the time.  That maybe there isn’t evidence that he went through with what he says he did, but it doesn’t seem that implausible to me based on my experience.  

Also feel free to tell me if you think that’s wrong or if your experience has been different.  Point is: Let’s talk about this.

As always, for more sex-positive articles, including BDSM how-tos, erotica, politics, and discussions on polyamory, kink and more, follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter.

7:29 pm  •  22 May 2012  •  6 notes  •  View comments

I decided to opt out of talking about sex work for this week’s column.  Remember when I asked for quotes from femmes?  Well, I didn’t get as many as I wanted to include, but still—the show must go on!  This week, I talked about my own femme identity, a little bit of its formation, and what it means to me.

As always, for more sex-positive articles, including BDSM how-tos, erotica, politics, and discussions on polyamory, kink and more, follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter.

9:55 am  •  16 May 2012  •  2 notes  •  View comments

In this week’s column for PPR, I wrote about the less pleasant clients I encounter and the “dark side” of sex work (at least, in my experience!).  Give it a read and contribute to the conversation by commenting.  Trigger warning for discussion of rape/rape role-play.

As always, for more sex-positive articles, including BDSM how-tos, erotica, politics, and discussions on polyamory, kink and more, follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter.

5:01 pm  •  9 May 2012  •  3 notes  •  View comments

A few things have changed around here!  Here are some things I have been doing to keep you in the know (which I assume if you follow me, that may be something you’re interested in!):

• Original Content - I am making a conscious effort to add more personal writing to public places.  I went back in the archive and tried to include things from the past, but either way, now there’s a tab on Tumblr for everything I’ve written that’s mine.
• Tizzy Wall Appearances - Yes, it feels vain, but if you’re interested in other things/places I’ve shown up, feel free to click here.
• A new page on Tumblr for ukulele business - I haven’t been doing as much ukulele playing as I would like, but that seems like it may be changing in the near future.  Click through and see what has already been done!

As always, if you’re interested in keeping up with me, you can find my weekly column on the Playpen Report, or you can follow me on social media:

• Twitter 
• Facebook Fan Page (It would make my day if you “Liked” me!)
• Facebook Profile
• Website

As always, I love collaborative projects, and I’m always seeking writing/social media/theatre/performance/modeling gigs.  You can always email me at tizzy [DOT] wall [AT] gmail [DOT] com.  Find me; let’s work together! 

10:02 am  •  7 May 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

“He said it wasn’t over yet, but that he knew that the time when he wouldn’t be able to see me anymore was on the approach. I had told him early on in our interaction that I knew that he would be the one to end it because of my disconnect from the entire exchange. He was in the throes of a crush; I was paid to be there. It was an inevitability.”

—

Musings of a Mistress: Breaking Up is Hard to Do

This week’s column on PPR: Read about my breakup.

10:58 am  •  24 April 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

My weekly column on PPR!  This week, I talked about a client of mine who came in with some potentially destructive requests, and the ethical conflicts I had with the situation (as well as how it all turned out!).  

I will say that this one was incredibly hard to write.  I labored over this one!  There are just so many intricacies to sex work and the relationships within them.  Parsing it down so that it made sense and generally focused on one aspect of it all was a challenge.  Fortunately for me, I have some UHMAZING editors, and I think I pulled it together.

Click through the above.  Read and enjoy.

2:16 pm  •  12 April 2012  •  View comments

My first sex toy review on the Playpen Report! 

5:52 pm  •  3 April 2012  •  View comments

• Handy Guide, by Dean Young - Poetry to make your soul quiver.
• “Real Women Have Curves” and Other Ways You’re Not Helping - A fantastic article on why placing one body type,any body type, as “more desirable” than others is not actually helping the fight against body idealism and body positivity. 
• The word creepy and why we need more sex positive media - Seriously, “creepy” shouldn’t be used to describe sexual orientations and preferences you’re not into. 
• Exotic Dancers in 1890 and the Plump Body Ideal
• The Love Bite - Episode 20 - Strong Women & Submission - A kinky podcast that guest starred my friend The Winsome Gypsy, talking about being both a strong, autonomous woman and sexually submissive.
• The Other Women: Playmates - I truly hope you’re reading Dead Cow Girl’s The Other Women series, which is where women can contribute stories about the shaping of their sexuality.
• the chunky/gorgeous woman on the subway - Reading this made me cry.  I have dated folks who would body hate on other women who were a similar size to me (or smaller!).  I am by no means a thin woman.  Body hatred needs to stop.  Fat is not bad.  Chunky is not ugly.  There is more to beauty than this.  Women do not need to be smaller, quieter, and more invisible.  
• Future of Feminism: Sex Workers Deserve Dignity & Care - “Even if our opinions on the sex work industry diverge, we can all agree that being a sex worker–whether by choice, circumstance or force–should not disqualify someone from basic human dignity, care and respect.”
• When Worlds Collide - Kitty Stryker’s heartwrenching account of a family member shaming her and thus, putting her in danger.  ”People like you are the reason people like me get raped and killed and society calls it an ‘occupational hazard.’ Thanks for that.”
• In Defence of the “C-Word” - Laurie Penny on the word cunt, and why we should use it.  (This one was not written recently, but still worth a read!)
• Kinbaka — Where Stupidity Meets Bondage - Polypomp talks about bondage and the significance of safety and consent.  So important!
• Are We Making Ourselves Targets for Predators? - Gala Darling on online privacy, inspired by that creepy app that can track your every move (which fortunately effectively got shut down).  As I have said before, I am a huge fan of transparency, but it is still prudent to be aware of the information you release to the world and how that can affect your safety and sense of well being.  The internet is a space we are all still learning to navigate, and can have unintended consequences.  While I’m still an avid foursquare user, I liked Gala’s tips for staying safe, and highly recommend that you check all of your social media privacy settings ASAP.
• Impact Theatre has extended their amazing production of Titus Andronicus!    (MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING for sexual assault, gore, and violence!)  Are you into bloody Shakespearean tragedies?  You still have a chance to go!  The tickets are super cheap, too.  If you’re in the Bay Area, do it!

And a few that are the courtesy of your irreverent host (meaning me):

• The March “Photo a Day” Challenge
• Musings of a Mistress - My weekly column on the Playpen Report!  This month, I talked about adulterous clients, my own experiences with infidelity, the transition from social services to sex work, and how to successfully negotiate with a professional submissive (while making the most of your experience hiring a pro-BDSM worker!)
• Photos and behind the scenes clips from the Pyramid Scheme Productions filming of  a scene titled Dance of the Muses.  
• FuckYeahNudes submission: Approved!
• More ukulele silliness here!  

March has been pretty damn fantastic, I will say, although I have felt insanely busy.  It seemed like I overcommitted myself, and it took me ages to finally start feeling back to 100% after getting that awful lymph node infection at the end of February.  Last weekend, I finally took a few days off of work last week to go wine tasting and have an actual weekend where I spent uninterrupted time with my sweetie.  I’m still catching up from taking that time off, but it was completely worth it.  My sanity is back!  I am all too ready for another jam-packed month ahead.  Once again, self-care proves to be vital!

Did you read anything link worthy this month?  Have any article recommendations?  Link me in the comments!

8:52 pm  •  31 March 2012  •  View comments

sex toy reviews? coming to the Playpen Report very soon!!

7:23 pm  •  27 March 2012  •  View comments

As it does every Monday, my column on professional domination and sex work went up yesterday!  Did you know that before becoming a sex worker (a dominatrix, nonetheless), I worked at a domestic violence shelter?  You aren’t the only person to find it strange!  Read more about it by clicking on the above link.

I haven’t decided if I will keep updating Tumblr with links to my column (unless it is one I’m particularly proud of), so if you would like to keep up, you can always find me on Twitter or Facebook.

For more sex-positive articles, including BDSM how-tos, erotica, politics, and discussions on polyamory, kink and more, follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter.

1:47 pm  •  20 March 2012  •  View comments

i’m working on my playpen report column for two weeks from now and need input!  pro-BDSMers (and sex workers, if you know people in the professional BDSM community, please pass this on), past and present: help me!

Feel free to respond here (in the comments or on tumblr) or email me!

pro-switches & pro-subs: what are tips that you would give to dom clients?

9:00 pm  •  16 March 2012  •  View comments