In February, I posted two pieces in Bed-Stuy on Tompkins and Halsey. These two pieces got the most attention of any pieces I’ve put up so far. Within a few days, someone had written his response to the work directly onto the posters. From there, a woman wrote a response to him. And it went on and, on with different hand-written comments creating this kind of interesting discussion. The pieces remained up until a week or so ago, when the phallic image was drawn. That’s when I decided to try to take them down.
The “Stop Telling Women to Smile” piece remained in tact enough for me to include it in the exhibition. I thought it was important to present in the show, so that people could view these written reactions.
I love when assertive women scare men to such an extent that they have to resort to infantile shit like this.
They think it will shut women up, but it really just fuels everything further, I hope they know that.
The “devolution” of the poster is more interesting to me than the originals, which I’ve reblogged before.
The fact that a man decided to comment on the poster physically, and was the first to do so, says a lot. Whenever women defend ourselves we get these counter arguments. We get people in general, and not just men, trying to cut down our personal initiatives. And when women, like on the poster, attempt to hold a real discussion we get the brunt of the “dick solution” where we are told that we hate men, we haven’t had a “dick that was good” or we get a penis drawn on the poster meant to make a social commentary about our “place.”
I’ve reblogged the individual posters before because I understand them as a victim of the suggestions. But I’m reblogging them now to show the attempt to keep women in their societal place in our culture.
An excellent example of men not getting the point about street harassment.
Virginia Authorities And The FBI Are Not Issuing An Amber Alert For The Disappearance Of Teenager Alexis Murphy, Claiming It’s Because Her Car Has Been Found…I Think There’s Another Reason
Virginia State Police say no Amber Alert will be issued in the search for Alexis Murphy. Murphy was last seen on Saturday at a Liberty gas station in Lovingston.
She left her home in Shipman on Saturday – reportedly headed to Lynchburg. Her car was found on Tuesday in Albemarle County at the Carmike 6 movie theaters.
A police spokesperson says that since Murphy’s car was located in Albemarle, the case no longer fits the criteria for an Amber Alert.
According to Virginia Amber Alert’s official website, activation of the Virginia Amber Alert plan requires five elements to be fulfilled:
1) The abducted child must be 17 years of age or younger or is currently enrolled in a secondary school in the Commonwealth, regardless of age, and the law enforcement agency believes the child has been abducted (unwillingly taken from their environment without permission from the child’s parent or legal guardian).
2) The law enforcement agency believes the missing child is in imminent danger of serious bodily harm or death.
3) A law enforcement investigation has taken place that verified the abduction or eliminated alternative explanations.
4) Sufficient information is available to disseminate to the public that could assist in locating the child, suspect, and/or the suspect’s vehicle.
5) The Child must be entered into the Virginia Criminal Information Network (VCIN) and the National Crime Information Center (NCIC) missing person files as soon as practical.
If all of the criteria is not met, the Amber Alert plan won’t be activated.
To learn more about Virginia’s Amber Alert system, click here.
More info on Murphy’s disappearance:
Alexis Murphy, a 17-year-old Virginia girl, has been missing since Saturday after tweeting “Burg Bound” to her more than 11,000 followers, CBS affiliate WUSA reports.
"She was en route to go shopping in the Lynchburg area," said William Mays, a detective with the Nelson County Sheriff’s. "This was the last time she was seen by her family."
Deputies with the sheriff’s office, the Virginia State Police and agents working with the FBI are all working to locate Murphy, of Shipman, the station reports.
"Alexis is very close to her family," said Mays. "She has never disappeared in the past. In fact, she was looking forward to playing in volleyball tournaments later this week and excited to start her upcoming senior year in high school."
Worried family members gathered at a local elementary school Monday night, where investigators set up a command post and held a brief press conference asking for the public’s help.
"This includes anyone who may have seen Alexis in her white Nissan Maxima…or anyone who has had any contact with her after 6:00 PM on this past Saturday," Mays said.
Investigators spent Monday searching houses and wooded areas in Shipman, while two state police rescue helicopters searched by air. Detectives did not take questions during the press conference. Anyone with information is asked to call 434-263-7050.
My response to Lady Gaga’s appropriation of the Burqa
About fourteen years ago, the veiled Muslim woman had been cast in television commercials in the United States. She played a part, a supporting one, in the commercial for the Jeep Cherokee made by Chrysler in 1996 shot in Morocco. The veiled woman is seen smiling and admiring the Jeep – sending the message that “if he buys the Jeep … He may even win the admiration of the most inaccessible of women, the woman with the veil”. This gives the illusion to the reader that something that in unattainable is within grasp. Western exotica, like Playboy, use the image of a veiled woman to their advantage as well. Covering certain parts of a woman’s body, leaving the man’s imagination to wander.
When advertisements target American women, advertisement marketers depend on the stereotyping of Muslim women as oppressed and submissive. In 1989 Virginia Slims advertisement with a man pictured in a turban sitting along the sides of three women in headscarves. The turbaned man himself is a mistake; a turban was used primarily by the Sikh religion for their men. You can see the misconceptions that Westerners believe that all people of that region are assumed to don that headdress for their men as well. The caption reads: “The Sultan of Bundi Had Nothing Against Women. He Thought Everyone Should Own Two or Three.” Underneath the woman farthest from the man is an image of a cigarette pack of Virginia Slims, with the caption: “You’ve Come a Long Way Baby.” This method reassures American women consumers that, as western women, they would never be like the oppressed Muslim women pictured if they were to buy the cigarettes.
When Lady Gaga wears a sexualized, orientalist and racist version of what she calls a “burqa” and when she makes a song about having “burqa swag”, She’s actually not doing anyone a favor by wearing it, least of all, Muslim women who actually do wear the burqa. The burqa itself culturally varies in style among the Muslim world, but for Lady Gaga to reclaim something that isn’t a part of her culture OR religion, further hypersexualizes Muslim/Middle Eastern/North African women and their religious/cultural attire. A burqa is not a political statement that Lady Gaga can make.
In fact, it’s highly islamophobic, because she’s really commodifying the religious and cultural garb of Muslims, to further sensationalize stories to satiate the ongoing imperialist fascination with Muslim women’s lives. We are constantly put under the media’s eyes and scrutinized for making the choices to wear our religious garb and deemed as submissive and oppressed individuals while white women who try on a “hijab for a day” or appropriate religious garb, they are applauded for being “revolutionary and brave”. She’s actually making it harder on us by objectifying us even more.
Yes there is a very small minority who may be effectively forced to adorn such clothing, through ultra-conservative family pressures, but most muslims scholars agree that it is not obligatory on women at all. Talking from personal experience - I have a few aunts and second cousins who wear the garment - and you know what’s funny about it… the fact that their husbands discourage them from wearing it, but they choose to do so regardless. This is a cultural and personal choice. If she wanted to take off her burkha, she would. This is a personal choice, and the idea that behind every muslim women there is an oppressive man forcing her faith - is nothing but an Islamophobic myth. Muslim women can speak for themselves, they do not need your pity. Clothes-policing is totally contradictory to the principles of democracy, and if we really are a free society not steeped in Islamophobia, this wouldn’t even be a debate, it would be a personal decision - to legally force and harass a women to go against her own personal decision of choice, is totally fucking contradictory to the core principles of freedom and democracy and women’s rights.
Muslim women like me, my mother, my aunts, my sisters, my fellow Muslim women around the world are the only ones who can have “burqa swag” and we don’t need your self-righteous, white savior, orientalist, racist, islamophobic bullshit to save us because we can do it ourselves and own it.
So basically, Lady Gaga can fuck right off.
Seriously guys please stop trying to intellectualize Lady Gaga’s racism she’s an embarrassing and incredibly dangerous human being
Because sometimes men want to be the little spoon, to be held and feel safe, too.
said no grown ass man ever
actually a lot of guys like to be held by their girl^
Not gonna lie, i have no problems with being the little spoon
i cant even fit around all his muscles
being the little spoon is awesome
"said no grown ass man ever" oh pls get over yourself
why is it seen as ~unmanly~ to enjoy cuddles oh my gOD
Especially when she gives your arm scratches and kisses your neck
I like being the little spoon, it’s like I’m a teddy bear
yeah I kind of dont think whether or not you like being snuggled from behind has anything to do with your gender at all
being snuggled from any angle is awesomeI present to you the awesome men of tumblr
Yo fuck you being the small spoon is the fucking best
little spoon is the shit, i get back scratches as an added bonus
Apollonia Saintclair - 20130806 La cavalière pâle (A princess of Mars)
Most guys do not have to deal with the world of women. They’re born from us, they live around us, but for the most part, we take care of our own shit. We buy our own tampons. We deal with skeevy guys who catcall us. We deal with crappier work situations. We deal with getting told we suck at things because we have a vagina, and that we need to be prettier.
Even when these guys married, they still married someone who dealt with this stuff solo. There might be stories and gripe sessions, but they tended to try to equate some part of their experience to the woman’s. Sure, you’re told to be beautiful, but I’m told to lift heavy things! Same, right?
Then, they had daughters.
Kids are very good at not dealing with their own shit. It’s not their job. It’s yours. Suddenly, you’re shoved into a toy aisle where there’s nary a Lego or car or building block, but instead, rows and rows of dead-eyed dolls. You realize how hard it is to find play clothes for a girl, because everything seems to be optimized for ‘cute’ rather than ‘comfort.’ You hear people compliment your daughter only on how pretty she is, and never on how smart or clever she is.
The girl goes to school, and you watch how she’s never called on. You hear someone insult someone else by calling them ‘a girl’, and it stings. Your little girl is awesome! She’s brave and smart and funny! Why would anyone use that as an insult? Then, you remember all the times you did it.
And then, you realize that, all along, you’ve been a part of the problem.
So, it’s not a perfect way to get men to be more aware of feminism. It would be better if they were raised into it. But it’s still a way.”
Again, some men seem to be shocked whenever they’re exposed to the humanity of the female sex and the reality— and brutality— of our struggles, simply because they might have a daughter or a sister. Explain though why they’re so many raging misogynists with daughters and sisters. I have no interest in attempting to appeal to the “heart” of the privileged, the oppressor, when they refuse to acknowledge my humanity and the injustice I am forced to endure at the hands of their much beloved Heteropatriarchy, regardless if I’m related to them or not.
Yes. Give raging misogynists baby girls. It’s the baby’s job to use its magical cuteness powers to make the raging misogynist ~*a better man*~. There is literally no way for a man to recognise female oppression without a Manic Pixie Dream Baby to open his eyes. It’s always a woman’s job to make him ~*a better man*~, even when that woman is only a baby. Her job.
The raging misogynist opening his eyes to the injustice of patriarchy is the only possible outcome of him having a female baby. There is no way that he would use his little girl the way he has used every other woman in his life. No, he would never abuse her, or rape her, or blame her when other men do. Nope, because her innate girly sweetness and light would make his heart grow three sizes.
I was pretty sure that I didn’t have any goals to accomplish before retiring. Then I saw Johanna’s plan to get a pug, and it hit me hard, in the face, like a flogger thrown by a jackass client: I must go out on an epic troll spree.
“Every sex worker knows that “Let’s do whatever you want” is passive-aggressive man-boy code for, ‘I want you to want the same things as I do, but I won’t tell you what they are.’”
YES! Lori is the funniest. Go read.
Lovehoney is offering 25% off all classic satin steel-boned corsets right now! If you were looking for the opportunity to do a relatively inexpensive little update to your work wardrobe, here you go!
"Alfons Maria Mucha (Ivančice, 24 July 1860 – Prague, 14 July 1939), often known in English and French as Alphonse Mucha, was a Czech Art Nouveau painter and decorative artist, known best for his distinct style. He produced many paintings, illustrations, advertisements, postcards, and designs."
I love Mucha. If traveling through Prague, the Mucha Museum is a must-see.
Moobiepie posted something talking about the stigmas against sex work that currently exist in society and how silly (silly is my word) it is to stigmatise selling one’s body when, technically, we have lots of other jobs that run on the same principle (all, if you really go into it), about how…
Wow, what a bunch of horrible, whorephobic presumptions.
Quit talking out of your ass.
I missed my first NF call a few nights ago and haven’t had time to be available again, but I look forward to doing it.
Black pinup girls exist too…really feel like they are under appreciated.