March 2012
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Deathaversary.
In eight days, it will be the fourth anniversary of my father’s death.
Despite the date being indelibly burned into my memory, it caught me offguard this year. As time has gone on, although I still think of him every day, his absence takes less precedence than it used to. Although I knew the date was coming up, I have been so busy and preoccupied that it didn’t occur to me how close...
February 2012
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“You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they...”
– Dear Sugar, The Rumpus via cupofchi
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Musings of a Mistress: Stepping Out of the Box →
Weekly column. Click the above to read it.
“Femme is defiance. Femme ignores the male gaze & tells patriarchy to fuck...”
– BOSSY FEMME (via clairebearstare)
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Anarchalcoholic: Reason #1 Why I Love My Job →
teaganism:
Every once in a while, I find one customer, completely by chance, who appreciates me having an intellectual conversation with them. I had an in-depth conversation with one guy about literature and another in-depth conversation with another guy about radical unionism and workers’ rights,…
I once had a long, incredibly positive conversation about dating, male privilege, and...
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“Sex is not spiritual. There is no god present when I kiss someone, no goddess...”
– Why Sex Is Not Spiritual - San Francisco Arts - The Exhibitionist (via fetters)
Of course sex CAN be spiritual but not for everyone and it always bugs me when people use the “sex is spiritual” argument for only having sex in committed relationships. Which for me is kind of a weird argument because...
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“When you take the time to think about someone’s feelings and do the work...”
– July Westhale
the ultimate femme shark poet!
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SEX WORKER PROBLEMS: One of our followers has been... →
sexworkerproblems:
By a seriously shit “friend”:
She asks:
Anyone here have any experiences with being outed? How did you deal with it? Today, my “best friend” confronted me and asked how long I’ve been using my moniker. I’ve had suspicions about her knowing for about a month now and I know she’s told other…
And you know, most of my friends are seriously awesome people. They support...
No Dana Only Zuul - Musings, Baking, Fashion:... →
nodanaonlyzuul:
If I face or hear negativity from people I do not know, it usually doesn’t phase me. When it’s someone I don’t know, the negativity usually cannot go past the superficial (because, again, they don’t know me). When it comes to superficial things, I can beat everyone to the punch with those things,…
this is almost exactly how i was feeling a week or so ago. much love,...
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fuck this. →
jenphalian:
But in other ways the problem is blindingly obvious. This girl has nothing in common with your high-school crush except for her social security number. Everything you loved about her is gone.
We loved the sweet, shy, freckly girl. We still remember her name, and after all these years she lives close to our heart. Seeing her in lipstick and stiletto heels dancing on a pole is...
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Musings of a Mistress: Kinky Love →
Second installment of the weekly column over at Playpen Report. Check it out!
Don’t forget to follow Playpen on Tumblr and Twitter, too!
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Reaching out.
Part of what I wanted to achieve last year, but couldn’t due to the series of disasters that plagued the entirety of 2011, is to build. Strengthen relationships. Set down roots in the city I love (Oakland!). Make a life that fosters creativity and open communication. Transparency.
As a person who is perpetually guarded with a cynical outlook and a love of battle (verbal evisceration is...
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Watchuhlenah:
oh my goddddd James Deen…..
I just . this is perfect .
like . holy shit .
um. whoa. hella hot.
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"Some feminists want to stop men from seeing all... →
workingsex:
Great article. It’s a must read.
YES.
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East Bay Express Interview: "Famous" in both old...
That’s terrific for people like Tizz…a 23-year-old art-school dropout who entered the subculture at an opportune moment — because it’s now a lot more socially acceptable, she’s “out” to her mother and most of her friends…Not only is it permissible; it’s also glamorous. “Everyone I’ve told has said, ‘That’s so...
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“But the one thing that I KNOW you will never regret is insisting on your own...”
– A Real Good Time: Why You Should Never, Ever (EVER) Fake an Orgasm
Rookie Mag
TRUTH.
(via one of my heroes, @CindyGallop)
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a moment from your regularly queued posts.
My queue posts pretty regularly (and y’all, please bear with me—I know there have been a lot of updates today), but I had to get this one out.
I have been thinking a lot lately about transparency, and the effect of it on my life. While I have generally been known for being blunt and honest to a fault (I believe my friend Matthew once referred to me as “an unedited...
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Musings of a Mistress: Misguided Expectations →
My weekly column over at the Playpen Report has started! Click above to read the first post. Every Monday, there will be a new one, so you’d better bookmark the homepage.
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"Luminous Pearl" →
I don’t know about y’all, but I am a huge fan of erotica. Before I found porn I could appreciate, I practically lived on erotica for my wanking delights! The trouble is, though, that well-written erotica is hard to come by. As a complete word-nerd, poor writing can completely kill my ladyboner.
My friend Editrix Abby has been gracious enough to share some of her incredibly sexy...
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"Kristen Stewart: smiling is not an obligation,... →
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outlaw-monarch:
I’m not terribly familiar with her acting work (I personally could not be paid to watch Twilight, and I missed [the Runaways, wasn’t it?]) but I’ve have seen her pictures on the front of magazines and online. I have always thought “what odd expressions she makes!” (Admittedly, some of them are- no one can take a perfect picture 100% of the time.)
I’m not...
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Good Night, by J. Bradley
I wanted to write “stay” on your sides, surround your bed with oceans of salt. I hope he folds you into a fox, loves you like a splintered arrow, brandishes the kill of your lips. May the bouquet of your hips wither. May the wolves forget your name.
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“I am very happy
Because I have conquered myself
And not the world.
I am very...”
– Sri Chinmoy
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Strange Kind of Mirror - Birds and Batteries →
While I am fortunate enough to be friends with the guitarist of this band (and his lovely ladyfriend, of course, was my friend first!), I think I can consider myself a true fan. After seeing them for the third or fourth time on Friday, I have had their songs stuck in my head. Enjoy.
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“Sex work is not inherently wrong. Sex work is not inherently dangerous. Sex work...”
– an excerpt from this wonderful piece on sex work from Bitch magazine. (via thestepswetook)